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The Boringbar War
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Allowing the Vulnerability "At first, through the glass darkly... and then...
Face to Face" It must be accepted that the writer of this piece is human, and so I am
invariably prone to error... But in accepting this there is, paradoxically, a
greater strength and perfection to be found. So, with this in mind, I write with
some basic principles that I have found, and which have been passed on to me as
I now pass them on to you. ONE: Trust the Heart: In our modern world, we have so many layers of protection over our hearts. We have such a sophisticated culture, and yet we are still primitive when it comes to dealing with raw emotions and feelings. The Heart is a far older, far more knowing thing than we generally accept. It is intimately connected with our BEING in a more direct, face to face manner than the mind One aspect of our Being that few have resolved is the ancient principle of not showing vulnerability. If an animal in the wild looks vulnerable, predators will hone in on it, and kill it. Sometimes the herd will reject it, because this creature will attract predators. In the natural programming of the Heart, the program that predates the Mind of Man, there is a message that reads "Do not allow weakness to be seen" This is a natural thing. It emerges as part of a necessary survival
instinct... But in today's world, there are many more influences that have been
built on this original pattern. The natural survival instinct has had to adapt
and conform to thousands of new stimuli, many of which may be seen as a threat. TWO: Remember Your Instincts: Our most natural urges are to eat and reproduce. To gather food, and to have children. After this, we have a herd instinct that tells us it is safer to exist in a group. Such issues as shelter and social structure all follow on from these original three impulses that are ingrained SURVIVAL STATES in every human being. Let's stay with the first three here, for everything else is a COMFORT factor, not a SURVIVAL factor. First, we need to eat. Here we arrive at the first level of Intimacy. We readily come to recognize as a child that we are completely vulnerable... Someone needs to care for us, or we die. Second, we learn to look after ourselves. We have survived because we have
been fed and cared for, and now we wish to breed. This translates very quickly
as a need to communicate, because we cannot breed with another unless we develop
some form of communication. THREE: Believe in Your Humanity In ALL of this we are intensely VULNERABLE. We can be rejected so easily. We can starve unless someone accepts us, we can fail to mate if someone rejects us. This is the area where the Ego starts developing ploys to attract attention, and to make itself feel safe. The Ego always wants us to forget that we are Human AND Divine, by saying "You are merely Human" ... But when we BELIEVE in our Humanity, somehow the Divinity within it is stirred, and the Ego has less control. The Ego works with a simple equations. A pattern in the heart might read: "If someone pays attention to me, I am safer" We can easily see how this pattern can fit right over the top of the previous SURVIVAL pattern. "If I am vulnerable, I won't look like a good mate, therefore will not get attention, therefore will fail to reproduce, therefore will die" The trick is to understand how the Ego Pattern pretty much always follows our Natural Survival Patterns ... And for this reason our Ego-self needs to be resolved and understood, as much as it is to be allowed. There is good reason why the VERY FIRST principle of Tibetan Buddhist practice is to contemplate your own death. When we accept death is inevitable, we relax and accept life more easily. Accepting our innate human vulnerability also allows us to move past the Ego as the prime state of being. Accepting Death as the Natural Result of Living removes many of the hindrances between our perceptions and actually understanding ourselves. This helps us go past the influence of the Ego Patterns that we have (unconsciously) installed into what is our Survival Software. The EGO is a little like a core file in the Operating System of our life... Destroy it, and nothing works... If it gets a virus and gets overblown or sick, then nothing works right either. Essentially, we are looking to get things in
PERSPECTIVE. Then the Ego Self feels it has a natural and rightful place for
self-expression, and gives us a lot less trouble. FOUR: Consciousness = Acceptance This is such a simple equation, most miss it completely. Our state of Consciousness IS our State of Acceptance. Acceptance is not a blind oblivious allowing, but a qualified acceptance of Soul as it manifests itself. It does not mean allowing a thief into your house, but it does mean allowing someone to express themselves as a thief, even as we take precautions to protect ourselves against this expression of Soul. Acceptance of Self is to allow ourselves to
change, and allows our beingness to separate from impurity as much as a false
expectation of greatness. Point Four s a big one to contemplate on. FIVE: Intimacy Which brings us to Intimacy, the One to One connection. This is first experienced with the Mother, usually. The pattern quickly gets imprinted "This warmth and closeness is good. I want more." Then it unfolds out to siblings and the social structure around the individual. Again, if we are getting attention, we are attracting energy, and we feel safer. ALL Intimacy starts with ALLOWING. True Acceptance of being ALLOWS Intimacy to occur. Yet here lies a danger... If you want to harm a child... Ignore it. And here we get to the first genuine Threat Signal for the heart. INTIMACY is the first area of perceived danger because, obviously, we can be rejected. What is more, it remains the area of danger for most people, for most of their lives. To counter this dangerous possibility of rejection we create social agreements and rituals. In this way we hope to control the possibility of rejection ... And this emerges in a thousand, thousand ways. Do we need to continue here? We all know that for the most part we are trapped in the rules and regulation and rituals. We all have felt the constriction and fear of rejection. We all know how difficult true intimacy can be. The question is: What to do? Well... We do most anything to avoid the problem, and this usually involves submerging ourselves in the Society, seeking agreements through the existing forms and rituals rather than striking out to the beat of our own drum. Drugs and alcohol are part of the submergences, and they allow us to form "negative" agreements and lines of communications with others who share our passions... When we are tired of the ritualized alcohol and drug dating procedures,
when we wear
out the need for being nice in the hope of attracting someone, and when we
finally tire of trying to be something we are not... Well finally we breath in
and ALLOW ourselves to exist. We usually find
out that the right person only ever emerges from the smoke of confusion when WE
accept ourselves as we are. SIX: Being Seen But even then, even after we have come so far as to accept ourselves, we need to go one step further. We need to allow ourselves to BE SEEN. But to do this, we have to face and in some way homogenize the various Elements and Patterns inscribed in the Heart and Mind ... How do we do this? It is so simple, almost everyone ignores it...
By following these simple procedures, we will slowly emerge from the cocoon of our fears, and embrace the butterfly of our being. We have nothing to hide if we learn not to
hide. SEVEN: Discovering WORTHY And then... the Amazing transformation occurs. WE wake up, and realize that we are WORTHY... We realize we are the heirs to the throne of BEING, and that now all we have to do is to remain in the Heart, keeping our trust in ourselves and in Life to guide us through the changes... If you start this process in your childhood,
and you manage to get to this point before you turn 40... You are doing
incredibly well. QUESTION: Have you seen a Large. Single Eye looking at you in contemplation? If so, please write to us: info@pythagorus.org.uk with the Subject line of: "Single Eye"
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